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This garden is a fitting place for today's festivities. It blooms with potential for the future when new shoots sprout and it is filled with memories past, when color and fragrance reached their peak and then, predictably, declined. 

Gardens are cyclical, changing and evolving like love itself, a reminder that life is short and must be savored and celebrated!
 
This property represents the essence of Mark and Alice's 
chosen life - they fell in love with the "potential" this house and these gardens offered - and began tearing out and doing over,
kneeling side-by-side, pursuing their shared vision with a passion.
 
Alice's creativity is incubated here. When she is home she is inspired by this place and by Mark. And he, by her. Somehow they made it through the renovation with their relationship not just intact, but thriving.

That was the true test of endurance and accommodation that
led them to where they are today: getting married, under the wisteria.
 
Marriage is the supreme sharing of experience, an adventure in the most intimate of relationships. Today it is the uniting of Mark and Alice who want, more than anything else, to live a life of passion, laughter, and integrity and to keep their commitment primary.
 
They wish to thank friends and family who are attending today. Mark and Alice, being a gregarious couple, cannot imagine festivities that do not include an interesting mix of people - the livelier and more controversial, the better. We are thrilled that we can share your wedding with you; knowing you is a privilege for everybody here. Including me.
 
It is through life's adventures, either planned or spontaneous that we come to know and embrace the persons we each are, complete in many ways but incomplete in others.

And if, on a lucky day the moons align we may find our counterpart, he or she, who provides us the balance we need to feel whole.
 
If - and where - we find that ideal person depends on how much risk we are willing to take, how adventurous we are, and how open we are to new encounters.
 
In Mark and Alice's case, the introduction process was facilitated by Match.com, and if ever there was an incentive for the rest of us singles to subscribe to this internet service, this wedding today certainly is a testimonial.
 
A few years ago, Alice was my neighbor. Living along the Leelanau Wine Trail, we became well-acquainted over Chardonnay - most commonly in Alice's then-garden. And of course she threw great parties regularly, which is second-nature for her since she's a natural hostess: Alice is always smiling, being spontaneous and often impulsive, devising excuses to "bring people together." Her style is upbeat, her laughter is infectious and authentic, and she always uncovers humor and good in every situation.
 
Mark shared this story with me which is illustrative of Alice:
"An Indian chief once told a young brave that there are
two wolves in his soul.
 
One is angry and mean - the other is loving and compassionate.
The young brave was told that the two wolves would
constantly struggle to see who wins. The young brave asked the chief which wolf would win. The chief told him, "the one you feed, my son."  Alice feeds the loving wolf.
 
When Mark came into her life, I observed their similarities:  Alice and Mark engage people. It is a process they characterize
as "comforting the disturbed - and disturbing the comfortable" and it often leads to very interesting outcomes. It opens up their world to novel adventures and results in experiences they would not have otherwise. It is their trademark way of journeying through life.
 
But during their private times, side-by-side in this garden creating beauty or racing hand-in-hand to the sand dunes at sundown, there is a different dynamic in place.
 
Elizabeth Barrett Browning said "I love thee to the level of every day's most quiet need."
 
And it is in every days most quiet need where you, Mark and Alice, provide nourishment to each other and with that, enrich each others' souls. Sometimes it occurs when you are carrying home pockets heavy with beach stones to build this pond or when you are sharing Alice's exquisite meals, or simply snuggle time - these are your days most quiet needs. And your life is rich with promise for more to come.
 
Alice says, "you should not marry someone you live with, but rather someone you cannot live without." And that brings us to where we are today.
 
Alice and Mark, are you presenting yourselves here to be joined in marriage?  Then, lets proceed.
 
Mark please turn toward Alice and repeat after me:
 
I, Mark take you Alice to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish forever. I promise you this from my heart come what may.
 
Alice please repeat after me:
 
I, Alice take you Mark to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish forever.
I promise you this from my heart come what may.
 
Traditionally, the passage to the status of husband and wife is marked by the gifting of a ring. A ring represents many things, being circular and endless, but today, just maybe, it represents the moon.
 
Because, once in a while the odd thing happens,
once in a while the dream comes true.
And the whole pattern of life is altered.
Once in a while the moon turns blue.
 
So Mark, with that sentiment, please repeat after me:
 
This ring, my gift for you Alice, symbolizes my desire that you be my wife from this day forward.
 
And Alice, please repeat after me:
 
This ring, my gift for you Mark, symbolizes my desire that you be my husband from this day forward.
 
All of us who are here feel privileged. And I want to say, on behalf of each of us, thank you for your friendship and the fun you have brought to our lives.
 
Bless you Mark. May Alice continue to find in you that inner strength and high moral fiber for which her heart gives gratitude.

Bless you Alice. The energy that is so natural for you, may that continue forever.
 

  • May you always be grateful for the partnership you have found.

  • May you continue to comfort the disturbed and disturb the
        comfortable.
 
  • May you encounter enough challenges to keep you tender and enough creative visions to keep you vibrant.

  • May your days be filled with sunshine and all your gardens bloom.

  • May serendipity lead you places you have yet to imagine.

  • May your days be profoundly magical and long upon this Earth.

 
As Mark and Alice have consented together before this company of friends and family, and have pledged their intentions to marry one another, I pronounce you husband and wife. Let us party!"





Under sail 
with Lei and Sand Ceremonies


This wedding celebrates your love, Mike and Cyndi, and the wonder of your relationship.
 
We who are attending today feel privileged, to be here under sail, on this reconstruction of the 19th century schooner, the Madeline.
 
More than 150 years ago the original Madeline sailed the waters of Lake Michigan. It is fitting that you, Mike and Cyndi should marry aboard this vessel, because as volunteers, you have contributed your affection and talents to the success of her sailing mission.
 
And now it is the Madeline’s turn to give back to you.
 
Marriage is the supreme sharing of experience and an adventure in the most intimate of human relationships.  It is the joyous uniting of Cyndi and Mike, whose friendship has flowered into romance, and who want to spend the rest of their lives together.
 
It is through life’s experiences that we come to know and embrace the persons we are, special, each gifted in many brilliant ways.
 
But our special gifts, though profoundly magical, do not make us perfect or complete. If we are truly lucky we will find our counterpart - he or she - who provides us balance and fullness through their special gifts, mysterious and different from ours and just as important. Marriage combines, embraces and honors those differences.  
 
Today, we rejoice with you in the passage you undertake together. Once again you are embarking on a trip, but this one is the voyage of your lives.  Marriage.  Let serendipity happen, and always remember, metaphorically speaking, to stop at the small marinas along the way.

Make the most of your journeys, the day to day ones and the upcoming big one - to Spain - and treat each as though there is only one day - today - on the horizon.
 
Mike and Cyndi, today you perform an act based on your love and your values.  You both share a joint belief that simplicity is paramount, that accumulations are not the goal, nor is money the end, but all is subordinate to the sheer exhilaration of nature experienced at the edge!
 
You know how to join up your complementary strengths to address daily challenges in the adventurous life you have forged together.  
 
As you marry today, you will share many things.  Your individual dreams will become each others.  Your interests will blend.  But most importantly, your children will become each others’ family.  
Cathy, Jamie, Sarah, and Tyler do you present your mother to be
married today?
 
Emily, Sara, Lacy, and Mike - do you present your father to be
married here today?
 
Will you all be there for each another and support and comfort each other, share the surprises of life - sometimes wonderful or funny, sometimes challenging - and face them together as a family - keeping in mind others' best interests, not just your own, in the years to come?
 
Mike and Cyndi, perseverance has been a defining trait of your relationship. 
 
You overcome hardships together. You understand the need to embrace your differences, as you are two very different people. 
But your passion for each other and for life’s many adventures takes the lead in your relationship. For example, you both love activity.

More than that, Cyndi, you are a hero to Mike. Cyndi, you live life to the fullest. You manage to keep all the children and your home, organized, after putting in a full day at work, yet still be capable of tenderness. Mike loves you for keeping it all together, staying good humored, and still giving him back rubs at the end
of the day.  
 
Love lasts when you share many things - not just love, for each other. And you do. Together you like working out, running, and bowling, sailing … life together is much more exciting and satisfying than life apart.
 
Mike, Cyndi was first intrigued by your smile and the twinkle in your eyes as you looked across the table.  She has never stopped loving that smile and twinkle. You seem to read each others minds, and share special secret things, like initials which represent much loved qualities in each other.  You are building traditions along with your shared dreams.  
 
Along the way  - when occasionally waters get rough and freighters lurk in the fog to to be watchful for, there will also be stars above.  Because eventually the mist will always clear. 

Boaters know better than anyone that the only real difference between ordeal and adventure is attitude.
 
A circle is the symbol of the sun and the  universe and the undulating, unending blue oceans of our planet.  Many things can be a symbol of the unbroken circle of love.  Like the ocean, love, freely given, has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver -  each of you is the giver and each is the receiver. 

Rings may be a symbol.  Flower leis may be a symbol. 
Today, both will be part of our ceremony.  
 
Mike, please repeat after me:
 
I, Mike take you, Cyndi, as my friend, love, wife, and fellow
adventurer, beside me and apart from me, in laughter and in tears, in conflict and tranquility, asking that you be no other than yourself, loving what I know of you, trusting what I do not know yet, in all the ways that life may find us.  
 
I pledge to stay by your side as your husband in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow. Through the good times and the bad. I promise to encourage you to live life to the fullest, and accompany you along that journey.  I will laugh and cry with you, grow with you, always be open and honest and cherish you for as long as we both shall live. Cyndi, I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow, with all that I am, and all that I have.

And Cyndi, please repeat after me:
 
I, Cyndi take you Mike, as my friend, love, and husband beside me and apart from me, in laughter and in tears, in conflict and tranquility, asking that you be no other than yourself, loving
what I know of you, trusting what I do not know yet, in all the ways that life may find us. I promise to encourage you to live
life to the fullest, and accompany you along that journey.  I pledge to stay by your side as your wife in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow. I promise to love you without reservation, and comfort you in times of distress. I will laugh and cry with you, grow with you , and always be open and honest. I promise to cherish you for as long as we both shall live. Mike, I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow, with all that I am,
and all that I have.
 
The lei custom was introduced to the Hawaiian Islands by early Polynesian voyagers,who made an incredible journey from
Tahiti, navigating by the stars in sailing canoes.
 
Now, a Lei is often used to celebrate one person's affection for another.

But these leis are also a circle, like the ring, which today symbolize the circle of unbroken love. Mike and Cyndi, please exchange leis to symbolize your oneness with each other and the universe.
 
Another ceremony rich in meaning is the sand
ceremony. It is a unification ritual relevant to our part of the world. Sand signifies the essence of life on this peninsula, the energy of the wind and the relentlessness of the waves. Sand is
a reminder of the ever-evolving world in which we live and
how fleeting is our time here.
 
The Sand Ceremony as we will practice it today also symbolizes the importance of individuals within marriage as well as the joining of Mike & Cyndi’s lives into a shared entity. Mike and Cyndi have brought with them sands which they selected.  Let this ceremony begin.
 
Mike and Cyndi will join their individual grains of sand into a common vessel. This represents the coming together of this couple’s  lives, dreams, hopes and aspirations.
 
Love, like grains of sand, is the eternal force of life. Love is the force that allows us to face fear and uncertainty with courage. But although you will be sharing one life, never forget you
are two separate people. Cherish and affirm your differences.
Love each other. Keep your commitment primary. Together you will laugh and cry, be sick and well, be happy and sad, share and grow. Grow sometimes together, sometimes separately."
 
As Mike & Cyndi have consented together in marriage before this
company and have pledged their love  – and declared their unity by the giving and receiving of rings, exchanging of leis and the joining of granules of sand into a common vessel representing their lives and their future I pronounce you husband and wife.
 
May your marriage be abundant and grow stronger through the seasons. 

  • Honor fire and ask that your union be warm and glowing, with love in your hearts. 
  • Honor wind and air, and ask that you sail through life safe and calm as if in your parent’s arms.
  • Honor water, to clean and soothe your relationship that it may never thirst for love.

Mike, you may kiss your bride. May I present our newly-married couple, Mike and Cindi!




A light-hearted 50th Wedding Renewal
"Your family has come together today to surprise and honor you, Jean and Fred, on this occasion of your 50th anniversary.  A half-century ago today, you were married at Kirk-of-the-Hills in Bloomfield.

Jean:  You were attired in a lovely white nylon gown
with a full-gathered skirt, sweetheart neckline and sheer sleeves, and you carried a bouquet of white gardenias. You sported a
long veil and were dazzling in your single-strand cultured pearl necklace and coiffed hairdo.
 
Dad:   There you were by her side - with your tall, boyish good looks, clad in a tuxedo bought on clearance at Joseph A. Banks.
 
Life has brought you many blessings.

Jean, from your days growing up in Grand Rapids, to the blind date set up by Fred's sister Betty, you've had a lot of fun in your life and you hold many memories of dear friends. At Michigan State University -Go Spartans - you, Jean, joined Kappa Alpha Theta.
 
And Fred, you were no slacker either with an engineering
degree from the University of Michigan - Go Blue -
and a member of Sigma Phi Epsilon.
 
Fred, you took on the responsibilities of helping to lead your
family construction company in Detroit. Your lives have been
filled with love and joy and challenges - your homes on Olivia Street and then Pickwick Lane, on Woodward Avenue in downtown Birmingham and South Shore Drive on the shores of Crystal Lake. Through it all, the two of you made it. Together.
 
Your sons, Tom and David, have grow into accomplished individuals in happy, successful relationships. Scott and Jacquie are both wonderful additions to this family. You have led good, meaningful lives.
 
Jean, you and Fred have shared 50 years of togetherness and triumphs. Your lively spirits have supported each other and your family for a half-century.
 
After many disagreements -we all know Fred is strong in
opinions AND ALWAYS IN THE WRONG - it's always voiced with humor, love, and concern for each other and your family.
You are each other's' companion and soul mate.
 
We wish many others were here today to share this with you, including Fred's mom and dad - Fred and Beatrice, and brothers and sister to Jean's mother and father - especially Reba,
who is here with us today watching down from her star in the Constellation Orion.
 
We are not forgetting brother Bill and his Joyce. They are so proud of what you have accomplished as a married couple.
 
And so, here in Tom's home on the beautiful Boardman River  while the love of your family is around you and where blessings are in abundance, today, Jean and Fred, you will renew your vows of love and once again make a commitment to each other. Nothing is more sacred than that.
 
Are you, Jean, ready to renew your vows of love and marriage here today? If so, please answer “yes.”
 
Are you, Fred, ready to renew your vows of love and marriage here today - and book a room at the Rotunda Inn?
If so, please answer “yes.”
 
I will share a reading with each of you. When I have completed it, you may simply respond with "I do."
 
Do you, Fred, reaffirm your loving, lifetime relationship with Jean, to be her partner and husband, to stay by her side secure
in the knowledge that you will be her constant friend, her faithful partner in life, and her one true love?
 
Do you Jean reaffirm your loving, lifetime relationship with
Fred to be his partner and wife, to stay by his side secure in
the knowledge that you will be his constant friend, his faithful partner in life, and his one true love?
 
With those affirmations shared, I now re-pronounce you
Husband and Wife.



A marriage of equals incorporating ancient rituals





Welcome to Shannon and Travis’ wedding here at rustic and beautiful Frog Pond Village.

This couple is grateful to you, their friends and family, as you support them in their decision to marry.  You have traveled distances to gather here at our wedding chapel this afternoon.  Your love and support are gifts our couple cherishes, not just on this special day but always.  There are some whose presence is missed by our couple, and in their honor our couple will now light a candle.

This wedding celebrates many things for Shannon and Travis:

  • ·It is their commitment to love completely, even without, sometimes, complete understanding.
  • ·It is their ability to grasp what is important in life and to let go of that which is alluring ... but meaningless.
  • ·It is their opportunity to discover the humor in even the most disappointing of life‘s moments and to craft a sensible life ... despite countless near misses.
  • ·It is their unfolding joy of letting down their guard and opening their lives to one another because, not to do so, would deprive them of the greatest potential every new moment holds.
  • ·It is the enhancement of experiences made better just by sharing the discoveries with your best friend, the Special One who knows you most intimately and understands and loves you completely. 

It is through life’s experiences - joyful and sad alike - that we come to know and embrace the person we are, special, gifted in many ways. But our own special gifts, though profoundly important, do not make us perfect nor complete. If we are very lucky we will encounter a partner who brings us balance and fullness through their own gifts, mysterious and different from ours, but ever so important.  So it is with this wedding couple standing before us now. 

You have grown much because of the talents you have brought to one another.  Shannon, ever ambitious, is calmed by Travis.  Now she can relax more, be less vigilant and hard-driving.  She more easily forgives; she lets go now, of sadnesses past.  She admires how Travis can just make everything work out somehow.  He "gets" her sense of humor, and she, his. 

Shannon, you provide structure to Travis and you inspire him.  Shannon  is so appreciative and grateful for Travis.  She feels complete now.

Travis' heart has unlimited generosity.   Sometimes the joy of loving Shannon overcomes him with gratitude. You delight in watching her fish and patiently bait her hook;  you both love puppy Buckwheat and your family romps in the woods with him; and weekly date night is mandatory for you, no matter what. You each set examples to others by striving to do the “right things” and be fair and kind in your actions.  

Perhaps most importantly, together you renew and refresh each others’ spirits.  You aspire to live rational lives, unparalleled.

Travis please turn to Shannon and repeat after me: I, Travis take you Shannon to be my wife. From this day forward I will promise you these things: I will share in your dreams and support you as you strive to achieve your goals. I will listen to you with compassion and understanding and speak to you with encouragement. I will help you when you need it and step aside when you don‘t. I will remain faithful to you for better or worse, in times of sickness and health. You are my best friend and I will love and respect you always.

Shannon, please repeat after me: I, Shannon, take you Travis, to be my husband. From this day forward I will promise you these things: I will share in your dreams and support you as you strive to achieve your goals. I will listen to you with compassion and understanding and speak to you with encouragement. I will help you when you need it and step aside when you don‘t. I will remain faithful to you for better or worse, in times of sickness and health. You are my best friend and I will love and respect you always.

All things in Nature are circular – night becomes day, day becomes night and night becomes day again. The moon waxes and wanes and waxes again. There is Spring, Summer, Autumn, Winter and then Spring returns.  You, Shannon and Travis, are the stars and moon and below you is the earth. Like the stars, your love should be a constant source of light, and like the Earth, a firm foundation in which to grow.

Accept in freedom these rings of gold as a symbol of your unity. With them you pledge your love, your strength and your friendship and you commit yourselves to the bond and unique relationship that exists between you.

Travis please place this ring on Shannon’s finger.  Will you please repeat after me.   “As we both wish it, I give you that which is mine to give.  “I shall strive to make you happy and care for you with tenderness “I shall not slander you, nor you me  “I shall honor you above all others.  "As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you."  “This is my wedding vow This is a marriage of equals.”  

Shannon, please place this ring on Travis’ finger and repeat after me: “As we both wish it, I give you that which is mine to give.   “I shall strive to make you happy and care for you with tenderness “I shall not slander you, nor you me “I shall honor you above all others. "As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you." This is my wedding vow.  This is a marriage of equals."

You cannot imagine life now, without one another. As your love has grown you have formed ties that bind between you.   With full awareness, know that you are declaring your intent to now be hand fasted, to “tie the knot,” before your friends and family. The promises you make now and the ties that will bind you here will greatly strengthen your union.

We will begin with a blessing of your hands.
  • Yours are the hands that will work alongside one anothers as you build your future together.
  • Yours are the hands that will love and cherish one another through the years, for a lifetime, beyond when these hands are old and can no longer work.
  • Yours are the hands that will wipe countless tears from one another’s eyes - tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
  • Yours are the hands that have the strength to hold on during life's storms, and will help you when you hurt, that will comfort you when you are sick, and console you when you grieve.

In ancient times, couples’ hands would be bound with was available - vines, cords, or scarves. Today we will use these ribbons  to symbolize the binding, or promises, you will be making to one another today.

Travis, will you be Shannon’s faithful partner for life? (I will) Shannon, will you be Travis’ faithful partner for life? (I will)
Will you be each other’s constant friends and one true love? (Yes)
And so the binding is made.

Will each of you stand by one another in sickness and in health, in plenty and in want? (I will)
And so the binding is made. 

Will you dream together to create new realities and hopes for this marriage? (we will)
And so the binding is made. 

Will you both seek to cherish and strengthen your marriage? (we will)
 And so the binding is made.

The knots of this binding are not formed by these ribbons but instead by your promises to one another. Only a couple can seal the promise of marriage, and only a couple can bind it.

We will complete our ceremony with the traditional Apache Wedding Prayer.
“Now you will feel no rain For each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold, For each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more loneliness For each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two persons,
But there is only one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place, To enter into the days of your togetherness.
May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years.
May happiness be your companion and your days together be good and long upon the Earth."

Inasmuch as you, Travis, and you, Shannon, have announced the truths that are already written in your hearts, and have witnessed the same in the presence of these, your family and friends, -- I joyfully pronounce that you are now husband and wife. ·    May the sun shine warm upon your faces, and may you always be each other’s best friend.  

You can now to seal your vows with a kiss.
May I introduce our newly married couple.






New Parent's Wedding We have gathered here today to celebrate and witness Kathleen and Joel’s celebration of marriage. They are very grateful to you, friends and family, for coming great distances to this remote sliver of land, famous for its mysterious waters and fragrant shoreline.

Here, migrating birds pass from one inlet to another to ultimately cross Lake Michigan. It is a calling these birds have, an intuitive journey they make despite the constant perils, beating their wings hard against the natural elements, to find their true places.
And so it has been with Kathleen and Joel - it has been an adventurous journey from the day they first met.

Standing here at the 45th parallel halfway between the Equator and the North Pole with you, their friends and family, reaffirms that the journey they intuitively knew was right, was indeed worth pursuing. 
 
Kathleen and Joel desire, more than anything else, to live a passionate life and to hold their family primary. It is in that spirit they have invited you, their friends and family, to share this day with them.
 
Today they also wish to honor and remember Kathleen’s father, Howard Collins, whose legacy will remain in her heart forever.
 
This shoreline at Michigan’s 45 parallel is a special place for Joel. 
During his sailing passages, the 45th parallel is the demarcation where competitive sailors make their first stop between Chicago and Mackinaw Island. Today it epitomizes not only the triumph of nature but the triumph of love. And today it is also our chapel.
 
We in attendance are joyous that we can share this most significant of life’s passages with you, Kathleen and Joel; knowing you is a privilege for everybody here.

We must not fail to mention puppy Scout‘s presence here too. Scout has never missed an important family event.
 
Elizabeth Barrett Browning said “I love thee to the level of every day’s most quiet need.”
 
And it is in every day’s most quiet need where you, Kathleen and Joel, continue to provide enrichment to each other and to baby Lucy Jane. She is the most precious part of your lives.
 
Kathleen and Joel, you share many things.  You each have a deep appreciation for life and you express that appreciation by living adventurously.   You love the majesty of the great lakes with their ever-changing faces.  You are both resolute. You have not just survived but thrived on risks others might find daunting. You are both strong and capable.  
 
You have discovered that you are counterparts and you have chosen to pursue a thrilling future together.  
 
It is through life’s adventures - some days exhilarating and exhausting, and others seemingly unremarkable - although no days of our lives are truly unremarkable as each is a precious gift - that people come to know and embrace the persons they really are, special, talented in many unique ways. But our talents do not make us complete.  If we are truly fortunate we will find our counterpart - he or she - who provides us balance and fullness through their special gifts, mysterious and different from ours but just as important.

Marriage combines, embraces, and celebrates those differences.  
 
You have come here today to formalize your marriage in a memorable way. The words you will share and the promises you will make today will become the basis for your life together as a couple and as a family with little Lucy.  
 
Joel, please turn to Kathleen and repeat after me:
From this day forward, I, Joel, promise you Kathleen these things:
 
I will share in your dreams and support you as you strive to attain the best of life’s offerings. I will listen to you with compassion and speak to you with encouragement. I will provide help to you when you need it and step aside when you don’t. I will remain faithful to you for better or worse, in times of sickness and health, through good times and bad. I will strive to be considerate and compassionate as a caring parent to Lucy and
as a partner and best friend to you.  I will love and honor you always.
 
Kathleen, please repeat after me:
From this day forward, I, Kathleen, promise you Joel these things:
 
I will share in your dreams and support you as you strive to attain the best of life’s offerings. I will listen to you with compassion and speak to you with encouragement. I will provide help to you when you need it and step aside when you don’t. I will remain faithful to you for better or worse, in times of sickness and health, through good times and bad. I will strive to be considerate and compassionate as a caring parent to Lucy and
as a partner and best friend to you. I will love and honor you always.
 
Traditionally, the passage to the status of husband and wife is marked by the exchange of rings.These rings have lovely  meaningful stories. Kathleen’s ring holds a precious heirloom diamond that belonged to her mother. Joel’s ring is fashioned in a Turk’s Head Knot.  A notable practical use for the Turk's
Head Knot is to mark the King's Spoke of a ship’s wheel. When this King's Spoke is upright the rudder is in a balanced central position.

It is a fitting symbol for the balance Kathleen brings to Joel’s life.
 
Joel, please repeat after me:
This ring, a gift for you Kathleen,  symbolizes my desire that you be my wife forever.
 
Kathleen, please repeat after me:
This ring, a gift for you Joel, symbolizes my desire that you be my husband forever.
 
Today we are celebrating the marriage of Joel and Kathleen, and also the joining of their birth families into a larger kinship.
 
Most significant is little Lucy Jane, the miracle baby that has been life-enhancing for everyone here today.  
 
Sam, Anne, Arlene and Lucy Jane - please join our couple here. 
This is a family celebration of which you are all a most significant part. Kathleen and Joel also count among their family those friends here whose support and caring have brought such joy to them over the years.
 
I wish you many things today:

  • May you continue to bring to each other the calmness and steadiness that gives you each assurance, even in the face of storms.  

  • May you continue to work together as a team.  

  • Have faith in each other.  Cherish your wanderlust.

  • May you always be grateful for the partnership you have found.

  • May you encounter enough challenges to keep you tender and enough creative visions to keep you vibrant.  

  • May your days be filled with sunshine.

  • May serendipity lead you places you have yet to imagine.

  • May your lives be profoundly magical and long upon this Earth.

You may celebrate your union with a kiss.
 
May I introduce our happy couple and parents, Joel and Kathleen - and little Lucy Jane!